One of the things that I hesitate to say out loud, but I’m saying it,(because really, what’s the point in pretending to be something I’m not?) is that I am so much happier now that school is back in session. Let me just say that I believe 100% that me being a stay-at-home-mom at this time in my life, in my kids’ lives, is the best thing for my family. I’ve realized that this is especially true in light of Sophie’s developmental delays. I have worked my butt off in the past year to help her get caught up, and it has taken a lot out of me. But she’s doing so amazingly well, and I know my being home and being able to work with her has played a big part in that. So I know I am supposed to be home now, and to be 100% honest, I want to be home now.
And yet.
This summer, with a baby in the mix and two big kids constantly begging for attention or bugging each other, I nearly lost my flippin’ mind. It was just not good.
My hats off to you homeschool moms, because if I had all three of my kids underfoot by myself five days a week, well, let’s just say it wouldn’t last long, because I’d be in the loony bin before you can say “xanaxicity“.
When my kids are gone part of the day at school, we enjoy each other more. That’s just the way it is. I must admit over the summer I raised my voice and said in frustration, “You guys are driving me crazy!” or “You guys are making me nuts!” way too many times. I just lost it. There comes a point when I can take no more and I got there a lot this summer. And when Bobby got home, I wanted to go hide by myself and just be ALONE.
And while I have a wonderful husband who is a wonderful father, he will never understand what it’s like to be me, and I will never understand what it’s like to be him. So when he sees me lose my cool, he generally does not understand. But he’s just seeing that moment. He hasn’t seen the twelve hours of incidents leading up to that, all the times I’ve been pushed and pushed and pushed. He just sees it when I finally pop. To him it’s the first time a child has committed the transgression in question, when in actuality, it may be the fifth or sixth time. In any case, it’s one time too many.
So anyway. I’m admitting all that, but I’m still not sure what it says about me. I just think when you have little kids in your face all day, it’s difficult. And I love love love love LOVE them am doing the best I can to love the crap out of them, but sometimes I get tired of being a live-in (unpaid) servant, of the adult ADD that I’ve gotten from not being able to, for the love of all that’s holy, finish one. single. task. without being interrupted, and I LOSE IT. Now that I’m in the throes of blissful fall, I’m realizing more and more how I spent the bulk of my summer in a state of anxiety and panic, mixed with frustration and anger.
I’m already saving my money so that the big kids can go to a week or two of day camp at Joshua’s school next summer. Not kidding. I’ve been amazed at how happy and efficient I’ve been this fall, and I’ve gotta figure out a way to make next summer better than this one that has just passed.
So. Feel free to judge. Or to admit you’re just the same. But that’s where I’m at. Now, I’m off to enjoy my 2.5 hours of only having one kid home while I can.