What exactly are we in for?

On Friday, we hosted a holiday party for my husband’s co-workers. In the course of the evening, I had the exact same conversation with two different men… both dads, one of two and one of three. Here’s the basic idea…

“Having two kids is SO DIFFERENT than having one. I mean, with one, one parent can be on duty while the other one does something completely separate. Then when you have two, ugh, it’s just so complicated!”

I’ve been thinking about these conversations on and off for the last couple days, and it’s really gotten me wondering… and I thought I’d turn to you all for advice.

Is the switch from having one child to two more or less dramatic than going from zero to one? What are the biggest challenges that come with having more than one? Is what those guys told me just man code for “My wife let me go out with the boys even less after Number Two was born?”

And (for the love of God) please tell me the good things, too!! ‘Cause really, it’s too late to turn this train around, and I could use some optimism. I mean there must be something to it… right???

Then, after you all figure this out for me, maybe we can work on answering the number one most popular question of Friday evening… “Emily, where on earth are you going to put pictures of the new baby? You’re going to have to build more walls!”

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22 down, 18 to go

I’m not trying to put you all to sleep, but seeing as how I can’t hardly remember how many weeks pregnant I am, let alone what is developing with the baby right now, I thought I’d check BabyCenter and see what’s going on with this crazy kid.

And this baby is crazy!! Kicking, moving, turning cartwheels all the time, especially when I’m trying to sleep. (Jenny used to call this “Dance Party at Club Utero” when she was pregnant with Sophie). Let’s just hope the latter isn’t an indicator of the kid’s internal clock. Yesterday and today, though, he or she must be sleeping or something, because I haven’t felt a whole lot of movement. It makes me a little nervous, but I have felt enough to ward off the urge to call my OB in a panic. Other than that, though, everything seems to be going pretty well.

Speaking of calling my OB in a panic, at my last appointment, I informed my doctor that I had diagnosed myself with gestational diabetes. She was not impressed… especially when I couldn’t give her any concrete reasons why. In fact, our exact conversation was “Did you have diabetes last time?” “No.” “Well then you probably don’t have it this time.” But I still think I do. Apparently I have a few weeks to wait before I find out, though. I could always test my blood sugar, as my husband has Type 1 and we have lots of diabetes toys at our house, but I’ve yet to work up the nerve. There are more levels of crazy to this story, but I will spare you.

So onto BabyCenter’s guide to the 22nd week.

Your baby now looks like a miniature newborn, checking in at 10.9 inches (the length of a spaghetti squash) and almost 1 pound (shoot, I was hoping it would say ‘almost 20 pounds’… that would explain a lot). Her skin will continue to appear wrinkled until she gains enough weight to fill it out, and the fine hair (lanugo) that covers her head and body is now visible. Her lips are becoming more distinct, and the first signs of teeth are appearing as buds beneath her gum line. Her eyes are developed, though the iris (the colored part of the eye) still lacks pigment. Eyelids and eyebrows are in place, and her pancreas, essential for hormone production, is developing steadily (go pancreas, go! Don’t wimp out on us like your dad’s did!!).

How your life’s changing:
You may start to notice stretch marks on your skin as your abdomen expands to accommodate your growing baby. Some pregnant women never get stretch marks, but at least half do. These small streaks of differently textured skin can range from pink to dark brown (depending on your skin color), and they become more apparent as pregnancy progresses. They can appear not only on your tummy, but also on your buttocks, thighs, hips, and breasts. Lotions won’t prevent or eliminate them, but they help with any itching. Also, you may no longer be an “innie” — your navel is flat and may soon pop out. It will revert to its usual shape after birth.

Another interesting skin quirk you may notice during pregnancy is something called vascular spiders. These are little areas of raised, reddish skin, with tiny branches. Commonly found on the face, neck, upper chest, and arms, they’re caused by the higher levels of estrogen in pregnancy, and they usually disappear after delivery. (ok well that just sounds awful. I had never heard of such a thing.)

Surprising Facts: Body changes beyond your belly

You expected your belly to grow, and perhaps your breasts too, but the following physical changes may take you by surprise. As with most pregnancy symptoms, you can credit hormones for most of these alterations in your looks. (In other words, a list of things that will make me look awful. GREAT.)

• Thicker, more lustrous hair. You’re not actually growing more hair, just losing less than normal. During pregnancy, your body sheds hair much more slowly than it did before. What to do: If thicker hair is a boon for you, enjoy it. If it’s making your mane more unruly than ever, ask your stylist to do some thinning at your next cut. After your baby’s born, you’ll start to lose this excess hair, sometimes in clumps, so it won’t last forever. (I am actually happy to say that I am experiencing this. I am concerned about my hair being thin above my bangs, so I’m enjoying this while it lasts. I do, however, remember very well the post-partum hair loss. I was definitely looking into Rogaine there for a while.)

• Increased body hair. Sex hormones known as androgens can cause new hair to sprout on your chin, upper lip, jaw, and cheeks. Stray hairs can also pop up on your belly, arms, legs, and back. What to do: Tweezing, waxing, and shaving are all safe ways to manage these temporary changes. (Ok if this is the trade off, I’ll keep my thin hair!)

• Fast-growing fingernails. Your fingernails may grow more quickly and you may notice changes in texture. Some women’s nails get harder, others’ get softer or more brittle. What to do: Indulge in an occasional manicure at your favorite nail salon.

• Skin changes. Some pregnant women report that their skin has never looked better. If that’s you, enjoy the proverbial “glow.” Others find the hormones of pregnancy aggravate skin conditions such as acne. What to do: Talk to your caregiver about safe treatments during pregnancy. Some acne medications pose serious dangers to your baby. (Does this mean I should lay off the Acutane? I thought the pictures of babies with legs growing out of their ears were just for kicks.)

• Larger and darker nipples and areolas. You may find that your nipples and areolas — the pigmented circles around your nipples — are getting bigger and darker. The little bumps on your areolas, known as Montgomery’s tubercles, may also be more pronounced. These bumps are oil-producing glands that help fight off bacteria and lubricate the skin. Some women also notice more pronounced veins in their breasts. What to do: Nothing — all these changes are preparing your breasts for nursing your baby.

• Larger feet. Your feet may go up half a shoe size or more. Swelling is partly to blame, but lax ligaments also make your feet spread — permanently. What to do: Buy a comfortable pair of clogs or slip-ons to accommodate your growing feet. (Re-read this sentence and replace “feet” with “ass.” This paints a more accurate picture.)

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‘Twas the Night Before My Caesarean

I wrote this one year ago tonight on my old blog. It is very much just a “ramble”, but I thought you might like to hear the crazy thoughts of a woman on the cusp of giving birth!

Well ladies and germs, the moment you’ve all been waiting for is almost here! Ok, mostly it’s the moment I’VE been waiting for, but anyhoo, in about 10.5 hours I’m going to have a cesarean section and deliver my baby girl, Sophia Diane. I….CAN’T….WAIT! Mostly because I am sooo excited to meet my baby and know that she’s ok, but also because I’m preeeettttty darn jazzed about being UN-pregnant! Because let’s face it, the last trimester kind of sucks, and the last 4 weeks or so REALLY suck. Big time. And even though it means getting a ginormous hole cut in my belly, it really is a small price to pay for a miracle isn’t it?? After all, they DO compensate for cutting the hole in your belly by giving you both a baby AND a morphine drip. Woohoo!

So now my house is quiet. Joshua has been farmed off to my brother and sister-in-law’s to spend the night with his cousins or “the Dudes” as he calls them. He was realllly excited about that. Poor kid has absolutely NO CLUE how hard his world is gonna be rocked. I tried to spoil him today by letting him watch lots of tv, cuddling with him, giving him m&m’s and making his favorite meal (Kraft Mac & Cheese EXTRA CREAMY – the boy has tatste!) I was pretty sad when Bobby & I dropped him off at my bro’s house, cause we’re not really going to spend much time with him in the next few days, and I will miss him. And of course I am nervous about how he will react having to share me with Sophie, cause he is a mommy’s boy for sure. But I am reallllly excited to see how he reacts when he first meets her in the hospital! I am not expecting too much, but I am anxious to see his reaction. He picked out a toy to give her and she also has a present to give him. A peace offering, if you will!

On my last night as a prego, I took a shower (because I have to get up at 4 a.m. tomorrow and I am NOT showering then! But who knows when I will next shower? Friday at the earliest. Yikes.) and I attempted something totally crazy, which is, to shave my legs at 39 wks pregnant. What was I thinking?? I haven’t done that deed for at least two weeks but something got into me and I thought I should. So I did. And it was all going swimmingly, I made it through my left leg with no troubles, but then I cut the CRAP out of my right leg about 2 inches above my ankle with all three vibrating blades of my Venus Vibrance razor. The cut looks like an advertisement for adidas, the brand with three stripes. And it bled like craaaazy (cause you double your blood volume when pregnant. That’s pregnancy fun fact #427.) It took me about 15 minutes to get it to stop, and since I already gave the hospital 4 vials of blood today, and God knows how much I’ll be giving up tomorrow, I was really anxious to not lose any more. Yee-uck! So anyways, next time, if there is a next time, I think I’ll just use some Nair a few days in advance. Muuuuch safer.

Reason # 738 why I am sooo happy I’m about to be UN-pregnant, is that my feet are fricking KILLING me. All my shoes, even my boring old lady Lands End shoes I wear to mom around in, were painful to wear, but going barefoot is much worse. After I get out of the shower my feet hurt SOOO bad just from standing barefoot for 10 mins. It’s ridiculous! So on Monday my mom bought me some of those ugly plastic clogs with holes in them that everyone wears, and they are my new favorite thing!! And these are the cheap Meijer version. I wonder what a nice pricey pair feels like. They’ve really helped me out a lot, and I can wear them IN THE SHOWER! Hopefully I won’t have to soon, but they really have been a godsend. So tonight after my shower, after I got the hemorrhaging stopped on my leg, I got dressed and did my “ow my feet hurt so bad I might die” routine, which is rub them with “Dr. Scholl’s for her” peppermint lotion (sorry dudes, I guess Dr. Scholl must be a chick or a really insensitive man, cause I didn’t see no male version of said lotion at the store) which is my second favorite thing after the ugly plastic shoes. I slather my poor feetsies with more lotion than is necessary, then put on my socks and my ugly shoes and put my feet up on some pillows and….ahhhh. Very nice indeed. And much easier to do without a 2 yr old climbing all over me!

So now I’m just maxing and relaxing. I know I won’t be able to sleep tonight, which makes getting up at 4 am very convenient. Baby’s room is ready, and it is sooo beautiful, her daddy did an awesome job! Our bags are packed, the house is clean, our laundry’s done, all Joshua’s clothes are clean and I even washed his bedding tonight so he can come home to a nice clean bed. This nesting really cannot be stopped!! Except for by childbirth of course. So now all we need is our baby!! And Mommy couldn’t be happier that tomorrow’s the day she’ll be here!! We really appreciate your prayers that Sophia will be just perfect & healthy, just like her brother, and that my recovery will be good & fast & much better than last time.

See you on the postpartum side!!

(Please see the post below this one for pics of Sophie’s PARTY!!)

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