Celebrate Yourself on Mother’s Day. ‘Cause Being a Mom is HARD.

This post is sponsored by HoneyBaked Ham, but the content is 100% my own.

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Joshua and me at Hilton Head on the beach in 2005

If you’re a mom, or you HAVE a mom, you know that Mother’s Day is coming up FAST – in 10 days, counting today! A couple of weeks ago, we celebrated Easter with our friends at HoneyBaked Ham, and now they’ve asked me to share some thoughts with you on Mother’s Day and motherhood. Which is timely, because I’ve been thinking about something for awhile now – about motherhood, and this gives me the perfect chance to say: Motherhood is hard. It is awesome and wonderful and sweet but it is hard. And this year, on Mother’s Day, I think you should celebrate yourself because you are working through the hard, taking the good with the bad, and doing an awesome job raising your kids.

The picture above is from a vacation in the summer of 2005 when we took Joshua to Hilton Head Island. He was about 17 months old or so, and the sweetest toddler ever. We were a little family of three, and to be honest? We were pretty carefree. I was working part-time still, which I enjoyed, and although life certainly wasn’t perfect, when I look back now, sometimes I long for those early days of motherhood. Joshua was just plain easy, and so, so sweet. Bobby and I had plenty of time for him, and for each other. Joshua was developmentally right on track or ahead in every area. He was hardly ever sick, he slept well, and he was so loving.

A couple years later, when I was rocking Sophie to sleep for the billionth time after the trillionth middle-of-the-night nursing session, I’d physically long for the days when Joshua was a baby, because it was truly easy. And not until I had my second child, my sweet, spunky, crazy-from-birth girl, did I realize how hard motherhood and parenting can be.

I have had a lot of hard with Sophie and with Jonah. That is just the way it has worked out. I look at that picture above and I see a naive mom (but a very happy one). Since that time I have had many, many moments of motherhood when I have thought, “If someone had told me before I had kids that it would be this hard, I don’t know that I would have had them.”

But even though I honestly have felt that, it only takes one look into the sweet faces of my three babies for me to know without a shadow of a doubt that not having those kids would have been the most foolish decision of my life.

Motherhood is hard.




My motherhood journey has not exactly been carefree, save for the first 2 3/4 years of it. But it has been truly wonderful. The joyous moments far outweigh the hard ones, and are sometimes made more sweet because of the hard ones. There are beautiful, happy, ecstatic moments of motherhood I never would have had if I hadn’t had the hard moments first.

And since my motherhood journey is far from over, I know there will be many more highs and lows to come. I can’t know what they will be, but I do know that they will be worth it, that anything is worth it, if I get to be Joshua, Sophie, and Jonah’s mom.

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So tell me, my people – my friends at HoneyBaked Ham and I would like to know – what was the most carefree time or moment in your motherhood journey? What do you most look forward to, and what do you wish you could rewind and do again because it was so wonderful? And what moments have been made all the more sweet because of the hard ones that came before them?

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And we’re OFF!

By the time you read this, Emily and I will be on a jet plane or on the ground in Atlanta for Mom 2.0 Summit!!!! We’re so excited to be speaking this year!

As usual, I have trouble being a grown-up, so thank God I have Emily to guide my travels (and my travel shopping list.)

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Seriously, is she the best or WHAT? I’d be wandering around the airport crying without her.

We are looking forward to seeing some wonderful blogging friends, making new ones, wearing fancy Lands’ End clothes, and taking LOTS AND LOTS OF SELFIES!

So I hope you’re ready for THIS x 100!!

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 Watch our Facebook page for updates on our adventures! And check back tomorrow for a great post on motherhood. xoxo!!

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It Does Sound Kinda Like Peanuts

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This is one you guys are gonna judge me for. Go ahead, I probably deserve it. But just remember that I am trying REALLY HARD to be a good parent in all the big ways, and I hope you’ll categorize this into the “minor infractions that won’t screw the kids up forever” category.

Let me just tell you what happened.

(Also if you know Sophie and know the difficulty that she has CONTROLLING THE VOLUME OF HER VOICE when she gets excited, you might have an extra-long chuckle.)

The other night I was assisting Sophie with her shower – I still wash her masses of hair for her, mostly because I want it to actually GET CLEAN. But anyway. As she was washing herself, she mentioned the parts she was washing, and I said to myself, in the condescending voice-inside-my-brain way, “Holy crap, I don’t think Sophie knows the proper names for her private parts, and that is totally my fault.” So, I said out loud to Sophie in my I’m-your-mother-and-I’m-gonna-tell-you-something-new-voice, “Sophie do you know what the real name of your pee-pee is? What it’s really called?”

“No. What?” she said innocently.

“It’s called a vag*na.” I said matter-of-factly.

“A Va-JIE-NUH????” she YELLED AS LOUD AS SHE COULD, I guess from shock, because, well, it is kind of a weird word.

“Yes, I said, “that’s a funny word, isn’t it? But that’s what it’s called.”

Then I decided I might as well go one step further, I mean, it was either that or wait another seven years, so…

“And do you know what a boy’s private parts are called?”

“No. What?!” (She was definitely excited to hear if this new word would be as ridiculous as Va-JIE-NUH.)

“It’s called a pen*s.”

“A PEE-NISS?” (Followed by hysterical laughter.)

“THAT SOUNDS LIKE PEANUTS!”

“Yes, well, yes, it does.” (Trying to control my own laughter.)

Then I explained to her that I didn’t want her to tell all her friends on the playground tomorrow about this new and exciting information and that we should just talk about this at home.

She told me she understood, and was quiet for a moment. But as I was wrapping a big, fluffy bath towel around her wet shoulders, she started giggling uncontrollably again.

“PEE-NIS!!!” she said. “It’s CRACKING ME UP!”

“It is a pretty funny word.” I acknowledged.

I can’t wait for our next game of Mad Libs! I am sure it will be bloggable.

You may start writing the text for my Mother of the Year Award speech below.

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