No need for fanfare

Girl loves her some Fancy Nancy books!

A couple of weeks ago Quaker asked me to tell you about an “at-last” accomplishment, something I’d worked on that was worth the time and effort, and I did.  And also gave away some cash from Quaker as well, in celebration of the fact that they FINALLY started making Quaker oatmeal cookies!  That first accomplishment I wrote about, working on our “Fun Room” in our house, was easy for me to think of and write about.  But when it came time to write a second post on the topic, I faltered.  Nothing monumental came to mind.  And then…it hit me.  We did have a major accomplishment in this house last month.

Something happened in February that I’d been waiting on for about 18 months. Waiting, anticipating, dreading, fearing, hoping, worrying…and then it snuck up on me, when it was time.  All of a sudden it was upon us and  it was easy, it was over, it was done – no big deal.   And yet a very huge deal.  When it happened I just wanted to kind of keep it to myself and cherish it for awhile.  I needed to sort it out and contemplate how I was feeling about it. But now I’m ready to  tell you.

Last month, I registered Sophie for kindergarten.

“Regular” kindergarten.  “Normal”  kindergarten.  “Mainstream” kindergarten.  Whatever you want to call it, the thing is, when we set out to help Sophie bulldoze her developmental delays, our main goal was to catch her up to her age group so that she could attend regular kindergarten.  And I am proud to say, that goal was accomplished!  Sophie will not be in “special ed” next year.  She has met her goals on her IEP and she’s done with therapy at school as well as privately.  She is now “typically developing”.  Little Miss Typical, I like to call her.  Although academically she is actually testing “advanced”. (Hey, I have to brag a LITTLE!)

I always  knew she could do it, in my heart I knew.  But when we first started this journey, the “what-ifs” were terrifying at times.

So this accomplishment, this meeting of our goals is a relief, and a quiet triumph – after all, kindergarten in general is a bittersweet thing!  But in it’s quietness, it’s HUGE, monumental, amazing, and joyful.  And I am so, so grateful for it.  When  August rolls around and Sophie heads off to kindergarten with her peers in her cute little uniform, I’m sure I’ll have some tears to shed.  But right now I am just grinning from ear to ear, enjoying the fruits of our work together, and enjoying my time with her before she marches off to full-day school.   My little girl.  I can’t wait to see what we accomplish together next!

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This post was sponsored by Quaker who asked me to tell you about something I accomplished that was worth all the time and hard work, like their “at-last” accomplishment – finally making delicious Oatmeal cookies after 14o years!  Stay tuned to the Quaker Cookies Facebook tab for yummy free sample offers coming soon!

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More Activities & Apps for developmental delays

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I was cleaning out our “fun room” this week, sorting through things Sophie and I had used when working on overcoming her developmental delays.  I wanted to put some things away for Jonah, set some things aside to loan out, and get rid of what we just don’t need any more.  While I was sorting through everything, I found some things I’d forgotten about that I wanted to share with you. First, for working on your child’s hand strength, try one of these guys:

A classic wind-up toy is GREAT for hand and finger strength!  The one pictured above has the winding knob on the top, which makes it a little easier to twist than the traditional wind-up toys with the knob at the back. If your kiddo’s hand strength is really poor, try one of these with the knob on top first.  You can find these just about anywhere, especially at Easter time, I got several Easter-egg wind-ups at Kroger last year.  These are great because they are fun so your child will be highly motivated to make it work.  Sophie wanted to make these toys work soooo badly, she worked really hard at it until she could really turn that little knob.  It was tough and sometimes frustrating, but it was AWESOME for her little hands and fingers, and had a great payoff when those toys did all their fun tricks!

My next tip is on teaching your child to button.  When I was cleaning out our learning stuff I came across many different buttoning activities, some of which I’d purchased.  But the ones that worked the absolute best was using ACTUAL clothing.  To start out, I clipped the collar and buttons off an old polo shirt that Joshua had outgrown.  This was great because Sophie didn’t have to deal with a lot of extra fabric and could concentrate on the buttons.  After she got that down, I took an old shirt of hers that had a little more difficult button shape and cut the top part of it off.  Finally, I had her do a full button-down shirt while she was wearing it.  I would recommend this for zippers also, using a real jacket instead of a “learn to button and zip toy”.  Hanging a jacket over the back of a chair and having the child learn that way first is a technique that worked for us.  After they get that down, they can practice zipping while actually wearing the jacket.

Now, on to some great apps!  First, I would recommend for speech and language (particularly the “language” part), a couple by Super Duper Publications that have really helped Sophie learn to express herself.  The first is simply called, “HOW?”

One of Sophie’s challenges was answering “WH” questions, but in addition to that, explaining HOW things are done.  I remember one of the questions she bombed on an evaluation was “How do you make a sandwich?”  – she simply had no idea what to say.  This app is very simple, but has a great variety of “how” questions so you can start exploring different topics, finding out what your child or student does or doesn’t understand, and teach them how to explain different processes and activities.  Since I am just a parent and not a pro, one of my main challenges was coming up with what to ask her, and how to figure out what she needed to work on.  An app like this, with soooo many topics (you can select only ones you want, deselect those you don’t need) is a lifesaver for a parent like me!  It also make it very easy to track how many questions your child or student got right, and which ones they missed so you can keep working on those.

 

Another app from Super Duper that I love is “All About Me, All About You“.  This is an excellent app for any kiddo whose speech delay has also contributed to a delay in social skills.  It helps your child learn how to tell others about themselves – not only the basic facts like name, and age, but also likes and dislikes, favorites, and all the things you tell someone about yourself when you are getting to know someone.  This one was really fun for Sophie and me to do together.  Like the other Super Duper apps, you can pick and choose what questions and topics you want to use, and easily track results.

I love these apps from Super Duper because they are such simple tools for a parent that wants to work at home with their child.  And, I like that they are available for Apple AND Android devices, so that more people can get ’em!

Super Duper has a grammar app available for FREE right now, “Using I and Me” – I think Emily should get this one since the mix-up of these two pronouns is one of her pet peeves and she judges me HARSHLY whenever I mess it up. 🙂  Give it a try for free, it’s a great example of how simple and easy-to-use Super Duper apps are! (Em you will be happy to know Sophie and I did a few questions on this app and she got 100% correct!)

Hope these tips and reviews have been helpful to you!  I love to hear from you when you have questions or need suggestions on these issues, so let ’em fly!

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The Minivan Moment

A couple weeks ago, I read “The Journey,” written by Tammy at Notes from the Homefront. In it, she chronicles her recent trip to the car dealership to trade in her minivan, and she reflects on the transition in her life the change in her vehicle represents. (Click over and read the post, she explains it much more eloquently than I can.)

The post really resonated with me. What stuck with me most was the ending – her excitement about what the future holds made me feel optimistic about my future as well.

Then on Sunday I went for a long walk down a quiet country road, all by myself, trying to become reacquainted with my own thoughts (and perhaps burn a few calories. Whichever came first.). I dreamed up lots of good ideas (just ask Jenny – I was texting them to her as they occurred to me) and one of them was that Andy and I should buy a new car. We’d had our two Toyotas for eight and 10 years respectively, and while neither had any huge mechanical issues, they both had upwards of 170,000 miles on them. Our Camry, in particular, was old and noisy and beat up. However, we didn’t have a reason to replace either of them.

It was about the time I was texting my dad wondering how I could arrange for our car to get hit by a school bus that I started to think – what are we waiting for? Our Camry was 10 years old. If we buy a new car today and drive it for 10 more years, I thought to myself, Kate will be sixteen.

As if that thought wasn’t traumatic enough in and of itself, I then realized that Kate was in fact no longer six and that in 10 years she would actually be 18.

I thought back to Tammy’s post and decided there was no time like the present to become a minivan mom.

So we went out and bought this.

One hundred percent necessary? Of course not. One hundred percent worth it? Absolutely.

Because here’s the thing. This time in our lives, this Minivan Moment – it won’t last very long. We need to embrace it, we need to live it.

And then we need to look forward to what comes next.

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